First and foremost, this group is a commitment to yourself. The amount of time you are ready to put in is the right amount for you.

Bottom line suggestion:

• 2 hours a week for the live group calls (Wednesdays at 11am pst / 2pm est)

• 1-2 hours a week for listening to the recommended auidio teachings

There will NOT be tests or requirements that you stay “caught up.”

Go at the pace that is right for you. Come to the calls - come as you are.

No. This is not therapy or divorce coaching.

While Mallika is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, this program is offered more as educational material and a space to learn from other group members.

Divorce coaching entails more practical or legal advise which is beyond the scope of Mallika’s license and training.

This Lab Is for women who are ready for what comes next.

This group is for women who have left a marriage—or are preparing to leave—and want to discover who they can become on the other side.

Women who value emotional depth and connection, who long for more satisfaction in love and in life, and who are no longer willing to sacrifice themselves in order to stay connected.

But this isn't about becoming someone who needs no one.

It's about learning how to stand on your own without abandoning the part of you that still needs connection.

You don't have to quit, force, control, or convince someone else to give you what you need.

And you don't have to harden yourself, shut down your longing, or pretend you don't care.

You will be in good company with other women who are ready to:

• Take greater responsibility for their own experience and choices

• Understand the patterns they are leaving behind—and the ones they may carry forward

• Strengthen their voice and self-authority

• Learn when to reach toward connection and when to hold onto themselves

• Discover what creates more confidence, connection, and true satisfaction in love and in life

This is relationship work that begins with you—not with changing someone else.

Together, we’ll explore what happens when you stop asking, “How do I get someone else to meet me?” and begin asking, “How do I meet myself—and what becomes possible from there?”

Groups can be scary.

There is no requirement for you to show up in any way other than how you are ready.

Wherever you go, you bring yourself. So you may learn a lot about yourself as you simply witness what happens for you in the group setting.

Maybe you tend to talk a lot.
Maybe you disappear into the background.
Maybe you take care of everyone else.
Maybe you worry about being judged.
Maybe you want someone to tell you what to do.
Maybe you resist receiving help.
Maybe you compare yourself to everyone in the room.

The group itself becomes part of the learning. You can observe your own reactions, practice your voice, receive different perspectives, and experiment with staying connected to yourself while being in a WE.

The emphasis is on learning and practicing the Me & We Method, not on being required to disclose your private history.

Group participation can become an opportunity to explore your experience while maintaining appropriate boundaries.

You are welcome here. You don't have to arrive at the Lab with the answer.

“Should I stay or should I leave?” is an incredibly human question—especially when you are deeply attached to someone and your marriage is no longer giving you the experience you want. The dilemma can become especially painful when you repeatedly go back and forth, collecting evidence for why the relationship is or isn't “good enough.”

The ME & WE Method doesn't tell you to stay. It doesn't tell you to leave.

Instead, you can use this framework to step out of the suffering of the endless question long enough to see more clearly:

• What am I feeling right now?

• What really matters to me?

• What are my needs?

• What do I actually know—and what am I imagining?

• What choices are available to me?

• What happens when I stop trying to make the decision all at once?

Sometimes the wisest choice is to leave. Sometimes the wisest choice, for now, is to stay and experiment with doing something differently. And sometimes you're not ready to decide yet.

This group will focus on the process for those who have chosen to leave a marriage. You may discover you have clarity on your own choice when hearing from others.

This is an important part of the work. You’ll explore when continued effort toward a Mutual WE makes sense—and when it may be wiser to redirect your energy toward developing your own ME.

This group is not about you holding more, doing more and losing hold of yourself in the process.

Just the opposite.

It’s about learning to feel grounded in your ME, but not to the extent that you lose connection with others.

How do we find the strength to me ME, but the courage to stay open to a WE.

The goals of this group focus on building a ME that has the capacity to engage in a WE that you want.

You may be focusing on non-romantic relationships for a while after leaving a relationship:

• your children

• your family

• co-workers or friends

You do not have to be trying to build a new romantic relationship for this program to be a fit for you.

Both.

There is a pre-recorded portion and a live portion.

Each week you will get an email with recommended listening from the ME & WE Podcast.

Every Wednesday we will meet via Zoom for a LIVE group call. The group is designed to be LIVE with participation (dialogue, coaching, Q&A and personal sharing)

The calls will be recorded and uploaded into a course portal.