The ME & WE Lab
to learn the Me & We Method
A 10-week on-line group
with Mallika Bush, LMFT
Starting: Sept. 16th
Are you ready for “personal growth” to also leads to more joy in your relationships?
Do you want practical tools not just insights?
Are you longing to feel the momentum of your growth cary you toward the relationships and life you deeply want?
Do you wonder why you are successful in some areas of your life, and yet you still struggle in your relationships?
Navigate your life and relationships with
more wisdom, courage, and joy!
Know yourself better
See the relationships you are in more clearly
Understand and use the wisdom of your emotions
Practice new responses and tools
Develop your voice and self-authority
Influence relationships and groups
Together, we willlearn simple, practical tools and frames to experiment with
in your relationships and in your life.
In just 10 weeks, Mallika will guide you to cultivate the self-awareness and self-trust that allows greater joy, deeper connection, and meaningful change in your relationships.
By December you will:
Understand the difference between ME (your inner experience) and WE (the relationships and systems you live in)
Recognize and begin to transform the repetitive patterns that shape your experiences with partners, family, friends, and colleagues.
Know how to apply the 9 Building Blocks of M&W to your life.
See how emotions and conflict are sources of wisdom, rather than problems.
Build a tool kit of useful skills to stay grounded in turbulence.
Trust your own voice and authority.
The ME & WE Lab
Program Overview: 10-week Online Group
for those ready for “personal growth” to positively impact their relationships, to have more self-trust, authenticity, and influence
10 Live Group Calls:
Personalize the work to your specific process. Increase your momentum. Ask questions of a therapist trained in the Me & We Method.
Share your journey with others walking along side you.
When:
10 Wednesdays 2:30pm - 4pm est
Sept 16 - Nov 18
Where:
On Zoom
Investment:
$349
Early registration price: $299 through August 29th
This Program is for You If:
You long for more satisfaction in your relationships.
You have oriented towards growth in your life, and are not seeing the changes you want.
You love learning and applying what you’ve learned.
You seek out teachers and programs that guide you from a place of respect, support and self-responsibility.
You know you are suffering AND that there is something YOU can do about it.
You value the growth process, and have seen how staying committed to learning keeps you moving towards your goals.
You are looking to cut through the noise of self-improvement and start using effective practices for self-trust, authentic truth and emotional intelligence.
Are you one of those people who’s relationship patterns keep repeating over and over again?
Well, me too. Welcome to the human race.
Humans have beautiful gifts we were designed with: joy, grief, love, connection, longing, imagination, power, etc. The thing is, we also get hurt and scared and we develop “defenses,” adaptations to our context to help us survive!
Brilliant! But also, painful. We grow up believing these defenses to be true or necessary to survive, and end up looping in patterns in our relationships that actually cause us suffering.
You are here because you want to know a reliable way OUT of that suffering.
And I am here to teach you about the ME & WE Method, which does exactly that. Yes, the 9 Building Blocks of this method will help you:
Claim your voice
Trust yourself
Speak with courage
Tolerate uncertainty
Stay present through conflict
Repair and reconnect
Break old patterns
Recover more quickly
Act with greater choice
The world is full of paradox, and our relationships are no different. The ME & WE Method helps you understand what’s happening within you and around you, experiment with new ways of responding, and develop new ways of adapting to life’s challenges.
About Mallika’s Work
“I find myself gaining the courage to take small risks in my relationships. Sometimes, these risks have deepened my relationships; other times, they have not. Every time, though, I showed up as my authentic self, and that has been freeing and deeply satisfying.”
— K.G.“I’ve uncovered old patterns keeping me stuck—like rushing to connect, but then closing off. This awareness helps me receive deeper, moment-to-moment satisfaction. I feel more accepting of myself now, not holding myself to unreasonable expectations and more spaciousness to be and feel more of who I truly am."
— M.B.“I have found the wisdom in my anger. Instead of pushing it down, I’ve learned to validate my feelings with compassion, and to speak up from a grounded, whole, authentic self.”
— G.B.
You Were Built for More:
You know that good relationships are the heart of a well lived life, and support us to do the work we need to do in the world.
You need TOOLS to get unstuck and start to move towards more impact on your communities and relationships.
You know the power of taking action, getting in the game and trying something. And you want to know how to support yourself to do that in your relationships.
You want to live in integrity - living, acting and sharing yourself authentically and powerfully!
You fear leaving this world without having made the impact you came here to have.
Most of all - you deeply care about this world and the humans in it. You know that if we are to continue to survive we must learn to relate in a new way. And you are ready to grow yourself as a leader and influence others to show up with care and integrity in relationship.
Week 1
Orientation — Preparing for the Journey
Theme: Why Me & We?
Together we will explore:
The purpose and philosophy of the Me & We method
The difference between ME and WE
How personal growth transforms relationships
Creating safety, confidentiality, and group agreements
The power of learning in community
Participants will begin to:
Identify their hopes for the group
Reflect on the relationships and challenges that brought them here
Practice observing themselves with curiosity rather than judgment
Week 2
Zooming Out
Building Block 1: “Seeing Systems”
Theme: You are part of something larger.
Together we will explore:
How relationships, families, workplaces, and communities shape our experience
The difference between problem-solving and emotional exploration
The "iceberg": visible behaviors versus hidden emotions and needs
Seeing ourselves in context rather than taking everything just personally
Participants will practice:
Mapping their relational systems
Identifying recurring patterns
Taking the helicopter view
Week 3
Holding Reality and Growth Together
Building Block 2: “Accepting Perfection As We Are”
Theme: Accept reality while striving for change.
Together we will explore:
The paradox of accepting ourselves and others while wanting growth
The difference between reacting and responding
Goal, Action, Situation (GAS)
How suffering increases when we fight reality
Participants will practice:
Letting go of perfectionism
Working with disappointment
Choosing meaningful goals
As we close out the group, we will reflect on the personal growth you saw over our ten weeks together. We will share insights, celebrations and challenges, and identify practices to continue after group ends.
What intensions will you set for the next chapters of your life and relationships?
Group members will leave with a deeper understanding of themselves and their important relationships, practical tools for navigating life’s inevitable challenges, build greater self-trust, authenticity and influence, and a road map for building both the ME and the WE!
By the end of the 10 weeks, you won't necessarily have a different life. You'll have a different way of being in your life. One built on trust, confidence and curiosity.
Week 5
Understanding Our Survival Strategies
Building Block 4: “Embracing Trauma”
Theme: Our adaptations once protected us.
Together we will explore:
How early experiences shape current relationships
Dependent and independent selves
Emotional needs and protective strategies
Identifying strengths developed through adversity
Participants will practice:
Bringing compassion to old wounds
Recognizing survival patterns
Integrating vulnerability and strength
Week 4
Emotions as Wisdom
Building Block 3: “Accessing Emotions”
Theme: Emotions are information.
Together we will explore:
Primary emotions and the defenses that protect us from them
Pleasant and unpleasant emotions
Emotional triggers and key moments
How emotions reveal values, fears, and needs
Participants will practice:
Identifying emotional patterns
Distinguishing feelings from stories
Using emotions as guides rather than enemies
Week 6
Choosing Where to Direct Your Energy
Building Block 5: “Channeling Energy”
Theme: Energy follows attention.
Together we will explore:
The difference between wanting, willing, and committing
The "power of less" in relationships
How we spend energy trying to change others
Redirecting energy toward what we can influence
Participants will practice:
Clarifying priorities
Setting boundaries
Choosing where to invest their energy
Week 7
Moving Toward What We Hide
Building Block 6: “Navigating the Terrain of Shame”
Theme: Shame shapes who we become.
Together we will explore:
How family and culture shape identity
Healthy shame versus destructive shame
The "shame wall"
The stories we tell ourselves about being good or bad
Participants will practice:
Identifying shame triggers
Replacing self-judgment with curiosity
Claiming disowned parts of themselves
Week 8
Staying Present in Conflict
Building Block 7: Receiving a Protest
Theme: Conflict is an invitation to grow.
Together we will explore:
Why protests arise in relationships
Defensiveness, blame, and withdrawal
The difference between hearing criticism and receiving information
The power of the pause
Participants will practice:
Listening without immediately defending
Expressing needs more effectively
Responding rather than reacting
Week 9
Becoming Your Own Anchor
Building Block 8: Organizing Self
Theme: Developing the capacity to hold yourself.
Together we will explore:
Building an independent self
Compassion, curiosity, and claiming truth (CCC)
The full cycle of React, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo
Giving and receiving support
Participants will practice:
Self-regulation during emotional moments
Turning toward themselves with compassion
Remaining grounded amid uncertainty
Week 10
Finding Your Voice and Taking It Forward
Building Block 9: Claiming Truth and Self-Authority + Closing
Theme: Trust yourself and influence the world around you.
Together we will explore:
Claiming truth while remaining open to other perspectives
Distinguishing accurate and distorted perceptions
Resources, energy, and needs
Mutual and unequal relationships
Meet Mallika
Action helps us create functionally effective tools in real time.
We learn, experiment, and learn more. Without taking action, we stay stuck in our minds. And our minds are a power tool, but we need to learn how to use them well!
The work I do synthesizes foundational human psychology and spirituality with practical, concrete tools and practices. I help clients experience change and satisfaction in the moment, rather than wait to arrive at a fantastical future “healed self”.
I help you create a foundation of growth in your life, so that your marriage, all your relationships, are the fertile ground within which you can root, rise and radiate.
We do not have to do this work alone. I envision a world where change happens through mutual commitment. I am working towards a world where our minds clearly seeing reality, we utilize our emotional gifts, and our relationships are deep and functional.
I am honored to witness and support you as you too take steps on you path towards a world YOU want to live in!
I am a woman, wife, daughter, artist, yogi, and mother of two daughters, ages 15 and 11. I value truth, dharma, co-creation, wildness, joy, and tending to the systems that matter to me.
I have worked for 15+ years with clients, women and couples, and yet my greatest learning has been through my own life and marriage.
As a therapist and coach, I hold space for deep feeling and for finding reality, clarity and your voice towards something new! I believe we are designed in perfection, and life is a mirror for our spiritual evolution.
As the world has changed so much in the last 6 years, I have seen how “holding space” is only one part of the process that leads to transformation.
We need action.
“I experienced a pivotal shift in my marriage when I learned to identify and communicate my feelings without needing my partner to fix them, using phrases like "I just need to tell you I'm feeling angry." He doesn’t get as defensive and I don’t just hold it all alone.”
“I used to process everything to death—journaling, analyzing, trying to ‘figure it out.’ It helped me understand things, but it didn’t change how I showed up in real time. The work I’ve done with Mallika has helped me to slow down and really have compassion for myself and my husband. From there I can actually respond differently in the moment.”
FAQ
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This solo-retreat is designed for mothers who feel the call of rest AND leadership.
For women who want balance between doing and being.
For wives who are self-aware, conscious mamas, dedicated to growth and creating ripples of healing and connection in the world.
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This retreat is a commitment to yourself, first and foremost.
Bottom line? You will want to commit 2 hours a week to this retreat (6 hrs total).
To get the most out of this retreat, schedule in 30-40 minutes per day for workbook or guided exercises.
You might find it easiest to set an alarm on your phone for the evening to take some time apart from your family and drop in with your process of this retreat.
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In my year of experience of working with couples, what I have seen is that women are READY. But working as a couple is like running a three-legged-race - you’re tripping over each other and barely making it to the finish line.
Working with women individually (and in group programs), they are able to understand faster, integrate deeper and circle back to wisdom with their husbands faster. Like a relay race.
As you do this work and get skilled at deep relational wisdom, you work becomes more efficient, more impactful and you can show up with your authentic leadership skills.
So, the long answer is, yes. This work you are doing within yourself WILL impact your marriage.
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This retreat / program is pre-recorded:
2 pre-recorded calls with teachings with Q&A.
4 recorded audio teachings.
A 3-week workbook to guide you.
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Yes.
While the materials and the work is designed specifically for you, your partner/husband is totally welcome to use the workbook, audio recordings and recorded calls.