The ME & WE Lab
clarity, confidence, and connection in your relationships
A 10-week on-line group
with Mallika Bush, LMFT
Starting: Sept. 16th
You are no longer going to silence yourself, or make yourself small so others feel comfortable.
HOWEVER, if we burn burn bridges in the name of being authentic, we may end up with plenty of Me — but very little We.
Build your independence without hardening your heart.
The strength to stand on your own; the courage to still need others.
Stay connected to the woman who longs to be help, while becoming the woman who can hold herself.
Have you recently left your marriage — or are planning to — and want to rebuild your life with clarity, confidence and a future that still values connection?
Rather than quiet-quitting your relationship or staying stuck in resentment . . .
Navigate disconnection and conflict,
with less suffering and more
choice, confidence, and satisfaction
See the relationships you are in more clearly
Break free from repetitive patterns
Strengthen your voice and self-authority
Influence change in relationships and groups
Join Mallika, along side other growth-minded
group-members up to good work.
We will uncover the steps to meaningful change in our relationships. Together.
By Thanksgiving you will:
Recognize and begin to transform the repetitive patterns that shape your experiences with partners, family, friends, and colleagues.
Understand the difference between ME (your inner experience) and WE (the relationships and systems you live in)
Apply the ME & WE Method with practical tools and experiments.
See emotions and conflict as sources of wisdom, not problems to fix.
Trust your voice and your self-authority more.
Begin to develop a ME who can soften into quiet strength, stay rooted in yourself, AND meet others in the WE.
What would change if you found joy in
trusting your own perceptions and voice
without needing others to agree with you?
This Program is for You If:
You want more satisfaction in your relationships.
You’re committed to growth and know change starts with you.
You value guidance rooted in respect, support, and self-responsibility.
You value the growth process, and have seen how staying committed keeps you moving towards your goals.
You’re ready to cut through the noise and practice what builds self-trust, authentic truth, and emotional intelligence.
The ME & WE Lab
Details
Program Overview // 10-week Online Group
Live Group Calls: Sept 16 - Nov 18, 2026
10 Wednesdays, 9:30 am PST / 12:30 pm EST for about 90 minutes
At-home work:
10+ hours of recommended audio teachings to learn, clarify and deepen your knowledge of ME & WE.
»» The Lab is designed as a live group with at-home learning components. Calls will include dialogue, coaching, Q&A and shares from group members. And, all calls will be recorded and available for you if you’d like to rewatch them.
Investment:
$379 paid in full, with a 3-payment plan also available
Early registration: $299 (first 5 group members)
Week 1
Orientation — Preparing for the Journey
Theme: Why Me & We?
Together we will explore:
The purpose and philosophy of the Me & We method
The difference between ME and WE
How personal growth transforms relationships
Creating safety, confidentiality, and group agreements
The power of learning in community
Week 2
Building Block 1: “Seeing Systems”
Theme: You are part of something larger.
Together we will explore:
How relationships, families, workplaces, and communities shape our experience
The difference between problem-solving and emotional exploration
The "iceberg": visible behaviors versus hidden emotions and needs
Seeing ourselves in context rather than taking everything just personally
Week 3
Building Block 2: “Accepting Perfection As We Are”
Theme: Accept reality while striving for change.
Together we will explore:
The paradox of accepting ourselves and others while wanting growth
The difference between reacting and responding
Goal, Action, Situation (GAS)
How suffering increases when we fight reality
Week 4
Building Block 3: “Accessing Emotions”
Theme: Emotions as wisdom and information.
Together we will explore:
Primary emotions and the defenses that protect us from them
Pleasant and unpleasant emotions
Emotional triggers and key moments
How emotions reveal values, fears, and needs
Week 5
Building Block 4: “Embracing Trauma”
Theme: Our adaptations once protected us.
Together we will explore:
How early experiences shape current relationships
Dependent and independent selves
Emotional needs and protective strategies
Identifying strengths developed through adversity
Week 6
Building Block 5: “Channeling Energy”
Theme: Energy follows attention.
Together we will explore:
The difference between wanting, willing, and committing
The "power of less" in relationships
How we spend energy trying to change others
Redirecting energy toward what we can influence
Week 7
Building Block 6: “Navigating the Terrain of Shame”
Theme: Moving toward what we hide.
Together we will explore:
How family and culture shape identity
Healthy shame versus destructive shame
The "shame wall"
The stories we tell ourselves about being good or bad
Week 8
Building Block 7: Receiving a Protest
Theme: Conflict is an invitation to grow.
Together we will explore:
Why protests arise in relationships
Defensiveness, blame, and withdrawal
The difference between hearing criticism and receiving information
The power of the pause
Week 9
Building Block 8: Organizing Self
Theme: Developing the capacity to hold yourself.
Together we will explore:
Building an independent self
Compassion, curiosity, and claiming truth (CCC)
The full cycle of React, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo
Giving and receiving support
Week 10
Building Block 9:
Claiming Truth and Self-Authority + Closing
Theme: Trust yourself and influence the world around you.
Together we will explore:
Claiming truth while remaining open to other perspectives
Distinguishing accurate and distorted perceptions
Resources, energy, and needs
Mutual and unequal relationships
Group members will leave with a deeper understanding of themselves and their important relationships, practical tools for navigating life’s inevitable challenges, greater self-trust, authenticity and influence, and a road map for building both the ME and the WE!
By the end of the 10 weeks, you won't necessarily have a different life. You'll have a different way of being in your life. One built on trust, authenticity and curiosity.
How The ME & WE Lab works
10 - live, weekly calls: 90-minute group call with Mallika.
10 - hours of at-home teachings to listen to between calls (from the ME & WE Podcast with Mallika Bush and Bonnie Macbride - founder of this framework).
1 - EXTRA check-in call December 2nd to share how it’s going and explore next steps.
Journal prompts and explorations for after the program ends.
FAQ
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This group and framework are for people who value emotional depth and connection, long for more satisfaction in their relationships and are not willing to sacrifice themselves on the altar of staying together BUT also NOT wanting to quit, force or control to get what they want.
Women and men are both welcome, partnered, married or single.
You will be in good company with others interested in shifting how they are approaching “relationship work,” taking self-responsibility and learning what shifts in their own ways of seeing and being have the biggest impact for more confidence, connection and true satisfaction in love and in life!
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First and foremost, this group is a commitment to yourself. The amount of time you are ready to put in is the right amount for you.
Bottom line suggestion:
2 hours a week for the live group calls (Wednesdays at 11am pst / 2pm est)
1-2 hours a week for listening to the recommended auidio teachings
There will NOT be tests or requirements that you stay “caught up.”
Go at the pace that is right for you. Come to the calls - come as you are.
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Yes.
While the materials and the work is designed for use by individuals, your partner/wife/husband is totally welcome to come to the calls and be in the group.
*Couples coaching will NOT be part of this group. If you’d like support with your specific dynamic, private coaching sessions are the best option for that.
You can email me at Mallika@rootedrelationships.com
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Both.
There is a pre-recorded portion and. alive portion.
Each week you will get an email with recommended listening from the ME & WE Podcast.
Every Wednesday we will meet via Zoom for a LIVE group call. The group is designed to be LIVE with participation (dialogue, coaching, Q&A and personal sharing)
The calls will be recorded and uploaded into a course portal.
Meet Mallika
Action helps us create functionally effective tools in real time.
We learn, experiment, and learn more. Without taking action, we stay stuck in our minds. And our minds are a power tool, but we need to learn how to use them well!
The work I do synthesizes foundational human psychology and spirituality with practical, concrete tools and practices. I help clients experience change and satisfaction in the moment, rather than wait to arrive at a fantastical future “healed self”.
I help you create a foundation of growth in your life, so that your marriage, all your relationships, are the fertile ground within which you can root, rise and radiate.
We do not have to do this work alone. I am working towards a world where our minds clearly see reality, we utilize our emotional gifts, and our relationships are deep and functional. I envision a world where change happens through mutual commitment.
I am honored to witness and support you as you too take steps on your path towards a world YOU want to live in!
I am a woman, wife, daughter, artist, yogi, and mother of two daughters, ages 15 and 11. I value truth, dharma, co-creation, humor, joy, and tending to the systems that matter to me.
I have worked for 15+ years with clients, women and couples, and yet my greatest learning has been through my own life and marriage. Life is our greatest teacher.
As a therapist and coach, I hold space for deep feeling and for finding reality, clarity and your voice towards something new! I believe we are designed in perfection, and life is a mirror for our spiritual evolution.
As the world has changed so much in the last 6 years, I have seen how “holding space” is only one part of the process that leads to transformation.
We need to take action.
About Mallika’s Work
“I find myself gaining the courage to take small risks in my relationships. Sometimes, these risks have deepened my relationships; other times, they have not. Every time, though, I showed up as my authentic self, and that has been freeing and deeply satisfying.”
— K.G.“I’ve uncovered old patterns keeping me stuck—like rushing to connect, but then closing off. I feel more accepting of myself now, not holding myself or others to unreasonable expectations. This awareness helps me receive deeper, moment-to-moment satisfaction. I feel more spaciousness to be and feel who I truly am."
— M.B.“I experienced a pivotal shift in my marriage when I learned to identify and communicate my feelings without needing my partner to fix them, using phrases like "I just need to tell you I'm feeling angry." He doesn’t get as defensive and I don’t just hold it all alone.”
— G.B.FAQ
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This group and framework are for people who value emotional depth and connection, long for more satisfaction in their relationships and are not willing to sacrifice themselves on the altar of staying together BUT also NOT wanting to quit, force or control to get what they want.
Women and men are both welcome, partnered, married or single.
You will be in good company with others interested in shifting how they are approaching “relationship work,” taking self-responsibility and learning what shifts in their own ways of seeing and being have the biggest impact for more confidence, connection and true satisfaction in love and in life!
-
First and foremost, this group is a commitment to yourself. The amount of time you are ready to put in is the right amount for you.
Bottom line suggestion:
2 hours a week for the live group calls (Wednesdays at 11am pst / 2pm est)
1-2 hours a week for listening to the recommended auidio teachings
There will NOT be tests or requirements that you stay “caught up.”
Go at the pace that is right for you. Come to the calls - come as you are.
-
Yes.
While the materials and the work is designed for use by individuals, your partner/wife/husband is totally welcome to come to the calls and be in the group.
*Couples coaching will NOT be part of this group. If you’d like support with your specific dynamic, private coaching sessions are the best option for that.
You can email me at Mallika@rootedrelationships.com
-
Both.
There is a pre-recorded portion and. alive portion.
Each week you will get an email with recommended listening from the ME & WE Podcast.
Every Wednesday we will meet via Zoom for a LIVE group call. The group is designed to be LIVE with participation (dialogue, coaching, Q&A and personal sharing)
The calls will be recorded and uploaded into a course portal.